Aaron Shurin


from Unbound: A book of AIDS

     
     Ten years later of unnamed terrors and specific losses, AIDS
     comes closer into my life in waves, "waves of nearness," raising
     its shark fin in my direction, then circling farther. The
     blood-scented waters could make one past out....
     
     Some, of course, do past out -- right out of the circle. But if
     anything besides rage is clear in these drowning surroundings,
     it's the clarity of those few who seem to quicken in their
     sickness and dying, those gifted few who stay awake as they fall
     away, and offer to us attendant comrades instructions from the
     beyond, or the going-beyond.
     
     It may be my own voracious sentimentality and romantic yearning
     that seek to transform these bitter passages into something more
     informed. Yes, well, but I've had at least serious
     co-conspirators who've given me my figures, phrases, mantras,
     mudras, holy dish....
     
     Leland was well into ten years of ardent Tibetan Buddhist studies
     when his first KS lesions appeared, and had already weathered
     crises in his new ancient faith. He'd left a live-in ashram in an
     attempt to localize, individualize the mind-stilling Buddhism he
     craved (as he'd sought even before AIDS to still a sex-crave that
     kept him ever hungry, in Buddhist terms a "hungry ghost"). But
     abstinence of flesh wasn't for him; he had a more modest -- and
     grander -- goal of achieving flesly pleasure wihout gnawing the
     bone, of finding a serene balance right here in his quirky gay
     life of theater, theatricality, drama, and drama queens. So when
     AIDS announced its way through his body he was already troubling
     himself into a distinctly American -- one might say San
     Franciscan -- Buddhism.
     
     As he began to sicken and die, he kept his eye hard on the
     process, informed by ritual precepts I can't repeat for being
     uninformed. He watched his body as if it were a body -- The body
     -- and tracked in his agitated mind the one purposeful Mind. If
     it sounds high-minded it sounded so to Leland too: he was
     constantly failing. He was constantly succeeding and failing.
     
     In between hospital visits, over a home-cooked meal, he detailed
     the problem to me. He was using mantras and other self-awareness
     exercises to quiet his thinking. "But every time I get to a
     certain place -- a level -- and think I'll be able to relax into
     stillness," he complained agitatedly, "I start to hear the theme
     from 'Bonanza' -- Bonanza! -- and can't concentrate!" He looked
     more than frustrated: tried, tested, chagrined. "There it is, so
     ridiculous. I try to dismiss it and can't relax." He saw the
     irony in his dilemma, but was nevertheless exasperated, stopped
     at the threshold -- and he was trying to die well -- by this
     paradigm of idiot chatter. He couldn't break through.
     
     It seemed to me that as long as you had an idea of
     "breaking-through" you weren't being, or accepting, where you
     were. But young John, cleaning Leland's kitchen, put it to him
     more gracefully. "If I got to that place," he shrugged, "and I
     heard the theme from 'Bonanza,' I'd just start singing it." His
     Buddhist lesson was simple: Go with it. Sing 'Bonanza!' This
     natural comprehension charmed Leland completely. He was humbled
     and thrilled and knew John was right. Was he even a little shaken
     such direct understanding came from someone unschooled in the
     lore, cracking an already shaky belief in the doctrinaire forms
     he'd been studying? I don't know if he actually took to singing
     the theme song, but that mundane media riff lodged in his mind
     opened a door. He began to gain the courage to transform Buddhism
     to his own specifics of a mid-life Hollywood-bred theater-tenured
     brilliant quirky awkwardly frustrated subtly flamboyant queen
     dying of AIDS in 1990 San Francisco.
     
     Nesting comforably in his last hospital bed, he told me of the
     new trouble he was having with one of his former ashram mates,
     who felt him straying from the Way, and was raising alarms,
     making him feel like a Bad Boy. Having struggled through 30 years
     of homo sex-guilt to find some measure of peace-of-mind-in-body,
     Leland found bad-Buddhism death-guilt not very attractive.
     Tibetan was beginning to turn him off. The ornate, symbolic Tanka
     paintings he'd actually helped print in America were starting to
     seem alien, exo-cultural. Who was Shiva to him in California;
     what in Sanskrit spoke to his idiosyncratic world? He wanted to
     die, he explained to me, governed by the things that already
     mattered to him, that came directly out of his life, ritualized
     by early investment and repetition, then fixed in the firmament
     for guidance. Could these even be his own theatrical cons, long
     ago installed: Elizabeth Taylor, the Trembling Bountiful, or
     Barbra Streisand, the swan-voiced Yearning Duck?
     
     As he spoke his mood was growing more excited and defiant. He was
     coming to a vision of "grace," informed by the sublimely silly
     creatures of the gay quotidian, suffered, nurtured, transcended,
     and adored. "Barbra Steisand songs are my mantras," he squealed
     heretically. "They're what I know by heart, what I already repeat
     and repeat." This was too good. I glanced at the photo of Liz
     he'd tacked on the hospital wall. Fresh from the bath in her
     ripe-skinned middle period, she gazed serenely -- unabashedly --
     from beneath a pink towel done up as a turban. All she lacked for
     true diva status was a jewel in her forehead. "Here's your
     goddess, you Kali," I said -- Liz didn't blink -- and we howled.
     Something had been transformed. The daily world one lived in had
     sprouted its own golden feathers. Leland had found his rhythm,
     and started to relax.
     
     The next day I brought him a homemade tape of Streisand's second
     and third albums -- the songs we both knew well -- had, in fact,
     grown up together singing -- and on which Streisand's voice still
     maintains jazz inflections, a girlish purity of sexual longing,
     and a mature woman's saturation of sexual fulfillment and loss.
     This time, though, the clear plastic box read, "Barbra Streisand
     Sings Tibetan Buddhist Chants," while on the tape itself was
     printed, modestly, "Babs sings Buddhism."
     
     I'm a reporter, I see now, rereading this tale. Ten years of AIDS
     has altered my poetic gift, narrowed my eye, humbled my language.
     What do I know about death except what my friends have shown me
     -- I let them speak -- for what did I know before, a virgin,
     uninitiated, unendured? Death's literalness is what I've been
     given, and the poetics of struggle have forged from it not
     transcendence but enactment. That fact of acceptance -- the
     acceptance of that fact! -- lies before me like a series of
     steps, rigorous, unsentimental, hilarious, florid but precise....
     
     After Leland returned home from the hospital -- which he
     desperately wanted to do -- sat on his bed and welcomed him back.
     "Well, you're home, now." "Yes," he replied, "I'm home and I'm
     going somewhere." That process, surrounded by a vigilant circle
     of friends and family, brought him in and out of lucidity and
     strength, though never at the price of clarity. After a dip that
     seemed almost certainly final, he rebounded. Thin and frail and
     blemished, he dished through some photos with J and me. Then, in
     what was the last detailed conversation we had (aside from my
     explaining to joyous him that the life-support system was being
     withdrawn) Leland, with the exactly eye of a critic, and the
     forgiving eye of a fan, and the third overarching eye of a born
     director, explained to us, barely audible, rasping and gulping
     the words, the precise differences between Angela Lansbury's and
     Tyne Daley's interpretations of Rose in "Gypsy." No more fear now
     of having Inappropriate Mind. If "Rose's Turn" was the theme-song
     at hand, it would be embraced. Did he perform it? -- I can't
     remember -- it seems to me he sang all the songs. And it seemed
     to me that this being-who-he-was to the end was validation for
     all he'd been before, indicated the peace and accpetance he'd
     rigorously struggled to achieve.
     
     He died quietly the next morning. When I arrived at his house a
     few hours later, I peeked into his room, saw the flattened covers
     where I expected a mound, and was surprised that his body had
     already been whisked away. It seemed too soon. I talked with
     gathering friends. One asked if I'd gone to sit with body. "But
     it isn't there: I looked: they already took it away." In fact, I
     was told -- "But I looked!" -- his body was still there: I
     glanced back through the door -- where? Then I noticed, collapsed
     beneath the blankets as if air alone had sustained it, now
     exhaled, deflated, one-tenth of its former size, a few barely
     noticeable bumps raising the covers, the suggestion of Leland's
     body. The rest had vanished, puff of smoke. It was hard to
     believe someone had been there; it was hard to believe something
     was there now.
     
     I didn't look.
     
     The little decisions people make create the one AIDS narrative
     that keeps me sane. I'm made to understand the meticulous
     dimension of life lived thoroughly by those in the process of
     losing it. Ken, gaunt and bruised, whose dying radiated power,
     who shared a very purposeful half-hour with me two days before he
     died (though I was really his lover's friend and hadn't known him
     intimately); sharing just enough time, I think he thought, to
     educate me, to let me feel his acute mind and sharp will issuing
     frrom utterly ravaged body. Ken, who thanked me for coming, and
     when I answered, on exit, "No, thank you," threw back in a clear
     voice, instantaneous and unaffected, accepting my acknowlegment
     without vanity, "You're welcome." Ken's body -- which I did look
     at -- hands bent backwards touching beneath his chin in a death
     mudra laid out by his lover impossibly unnatural in life, winged
     articulate in death, his tightened face eyes wide open -- having
     seen the virgin Mary come to take him, flaming sword and heart --
     gazing up and out, open gazing, open gazing....
     
     Or young John, desperately thinning, in a burst of exuberance
     donning a pink and turquoise sun dress, blond curly wig,
     sunglasses, and blue kerchief, vamping on my couch and rug like
     the skeleton of Nancy Reagan (but Nancy Reagan is the skeleton of
     Nancy Reagan!), utilizing both his body and his loss-of-body,
     exhibiting outrageously what I might call not joie de vivre but
     joie de mourir.
     
     Or Ken again, emaciated in bed, booming a voice from what hidden
     reservoir?, in a chamber of tropical plants, chants from an
     unseen tape recorder wafting like smoke through the room, like
     wind at the door, with a clear luscious photo on the nightstand
     of a hidden beach, long and curvacious. "Is that in Hawaii?" I
     asked. "No, it's in New Zealand, near my friends' house." I knew
     he loved the talismanic sea. "Have you been there?" "No," he
     answered carefully, "Not yet...."
     


Copyright © 1991 Aaron Shurin

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